We have an uncanny ability to alter our consciousness; we can literally change our memories. Not necessarily what happened, but how we feel about them. An emotional time-traveling, if you will. It is amazing that specific memories can change based on new information regarding the people and situations surrounding a moment in time.
The same memory can feel different at ages 7, 17, and 27. For example, take an instance of physical abuse—a child at seven might remember feeling hurt, sad, scared, and helpless. That same child at seventeen might remember that incident and become enraged, hateful, and rebellious because they realize they were hurt by an adult who was supposed to care for them when they were vulnerable. At twenty-seven, that child has grown up and perhaps learned new information about their parent such as, abuse they themselves may have suffered or the struggles they dealt with at that time. While it doesn’t make the abuse right, it can make space for forgiveness.
When we allow ourselves to see the brokenness in others and recognize it in ourselves– we can mend the rifts in our soul, travel the spaces in our mind that hold memories of pain and suffering and transform them into life-giving love. This forgiveness can also be extended to ourselves when we revisit a memory and find that we were wrong. Being this honest with yourself is liberating because you are no longer blind to the things you don’t want to see, but in viewing the whole picture allow the memories that once made you mute to give you a voice that no longer destroys but cultivates positivity and possibility. When we forgive, we change the way we remember, erasing further damage that hurt creates. We stop revisiting pain. We get closer to the source of Light that speaks life into the dead places of our heart.